People
are anxious to improve their circumstances but are unwilling to improve
themselves therefore they remain bound( James Allen" As a man
thinketh")
1. The "
assumption" gap
I assume I will automatically grow. This misconception
comes from our subconscious belief that personal growth comes
automatically. When we are children we don't put any effort into our
physical growth, but we continue growing, so we subconsciously carry
this erroneous assumption into all other types of growth like emotional,
intellectual, and spiritual. Once we are done with our formal education
we must take ownership of the educational process into our own hands.No
wind favors him who has no destined port (Michel De Mountain) if we want
our lives to improve we must improve yourselves and we must make it a
tangible target
2. The "knowledge" gap
I don't know how to grow. If we are clear with what we want the world responds with clarity.Most
people don't act as quickly. As they should on their decisions and only
to themselves subject to the
3. The "timing" gap
I dont have time to
begin. Law of diminishing intent- the longer you wait to do something
you should do now the greater the odds you'll never actually do it. The
reality is that will never get much done unless you do it before you are
ready
4. The "mistake" gap
I'm afraid of making mistakes.
Growing is messy, you will make mistakes, look foolish and will have to
admit you don't have all the answers. That's the admission price if you
want to improve. " what would you attempt to do if you knew you wouldn't
fail?" Mistakes are a sign you are moving in the right direction( Robert H. Scheuller)
5. The "Perfection" gap
I have to find the best way before I start.In
reality it works the other way around.ideally we'd like to see the
whole route before we begin but you see it progressively, as you move
forward a little more of the road is revealed to you! If you want to see
more of the way, then get moving!
6. The "inspiration" gap
I
don't feel like doing it. Just do it. The whole idea of motivation is a
trap!!! It does not exist( a Russian saying goes" appetite comes as you start eating" ) do whatever needs to get done and motivation will come
in the process. After you start motivation comes and makes it easy to
keep on doing it!!! Motivation is like love and happiness, it's a
byproduct of our actions!!!! When you actively engaged in doing
something it it sneaks up and zaps you when you least expect it. You are
more likely to act yourself into feeling, then feel yourself into
acting(Jerome Bruno Harvard ph.d ) whatever you need to do- Do it. You
might not feel inspired to aggressively pursue a growth plan because you
haven't started yet. The reasons to keep growing far outweigh the
reasons to start growing. You discover the reasons to keep growing only
if you stick with it long enough to reap benefits of it! Make a
commitment to stay with growth for at least 12 months, if you do , you
will fall in love with the process.
7. The "comparison" gap
Others are better than I am. At first you will feel like you are behind
on your growth if you won't get over the comparison gap. You will have
to learn to become comfortable outside of your comfort zone.
8.
The "expectation" gap
I thought it would be easier than this. It is not
easy to grow, it is not easy to clime to the top. We create our own luck.The
formula for luck = preparation( growth) + attitude + opportunity + action.
We need to make a transition towards intentional growth. The sooner we
become intentional about it the better, because growth compounds and
accelerates with time!!!
